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I just wanted to pop on here and give everyone a real quick run down on things coming up in the near future for The Unspoken Ethic as well as an update on future endeavors.

On the list of upcoming topics, I will FINALLY be discussing THE WALL…And no I am not referring to the classic Pink Floyd album, I mean the border wall that has been proposed and is currently being funded for the Southern American border and why I don’t particularly agree with it, while offering a little fantasy alternative idea. I also have lined up a more singular look at the political meanderings of Hollywood elite a I examine one in particular Chris Evans. Beyond that we will be taking a step back from news sources for a bit and start focusing a little on just the basic behavior patterns we see not only out and about, but also a study in online behavior patterns as well.

Okay now for the FUN PART. As you know The Unspoken Ethic is not only about confronting popular view points, it is also about covering things from an uncommon perspective, a sometimes controversial perspective, or simply a new perspective from what you are seeing and hearing from everyone else, or at least a majority out here in the internet world. In the interest of this, if you post a Tweet regarding a news story or behaviors you spot that you find interesting and have your own take on it hash tag it #MyUnspokenEthic and I will save it. Periodically I will post YOUR Unspoken Ethics here on the blog and for the ones that I find really interesting, you may even get your own blog post centered around it.

Now for….what seems to still be a little ways off. I am STILL trying to work out creating video content for this site and for my Youtube channel. Hopefully I am not far off from getting a break that will allow me to start implementing some of my more ambitious plans. I will keep you posted as things develop.

Hey It’s been, I don’t know, a week or two since I last posted? Want to look at that post that includes petitions regarding Children’s Healthcare click here BURN IT DOWN! An All Out Assault Against Society Weakening Ideology. Before I get into today’s topic I’m going to need you to do something. I need you to believe in something that more and more these days seems IMPOSSIBLE. Can you do that? 😀 Good. You ever have those moments when you feel the need to ask yourself what would John Quinones do? For those who don’t know who this is, he is a journalist who did a show called “What Would You Do?” It was the perfect mixture of prank show and genuine social experimentation. Actors were hired to go out in public and create scenes, depicting acts ranging from race bashing, to abuse scenarios. They even had someone go out twice both as how they really are and in a fat suit with kick ass make up to see how people reacted differently between the model and the fat person. I mean you name it they were running a scenario for it and sometimes doing the same one in different places. Noting from hidden cameras, both the people who ignored what was happening and those who stepped up to act against it. They would always interview the ones who reacted to find out why they did. As far as reality television goes, this to me was one that had real educational value to it.

Well I think we have seen just about every real world scenario there is to be seen, whatever “What Would You Do?” hasn’t covered Tom Green certainly did back in his early days and while that was comedy it did push the limits of seeing how everyday people react to just ridiculous circumstances. That said Debate is a Lost Art, and I know there are going to be people out there who will read that and scream Debate Teams, Election Debates, The one’s you have seen between scientists and Christians and the thing is all of these are essentially COMPETITIONS and the Winners are determined by others viewing it’s very STRUCTURED RULE SET. I’m talking REAL DEBATE what we want to call debate today when compared to it is like the difference between Kendo and Genuine Sword fighting. First off in REAL DEBATE it is NOT about winning. When both sides are RECEPTIVE ENOUGH it is about each expanding their ideology through the EXCHANGE OF IDEAS. There is such a resistance in this age to the notion of exchanging idea’s. It’s like everybody wants to believe THEY ARE RIGHT. Let’s look at some of the reasons. First: It’s a matter of having a fixed and set belief system, this is something people cling to even during the times it does not make sense or even apply to the situation. It’s just easier to stick to your guns than adopt an idea from another person….especially if you disagree with most everything they say. Second: FEAR of anything that goes against your grain. FEAR is one of those things that exists to trigger Survival mode in our minds to make it easier to overcome obstacles, but it can also be it’s own obstacle when left unchecked.When we fear the result of being “WRONG” we become resistant to ACCEPTING the idea’s of others. Third: I have basically already covered in saying that we have twisted the idea of what debate is into being a COMPETITION, when you think DEBATE you automatically go into defense/offense mode in the belief that it is something that you can or have to WIN. When we do this we forsake accepting the ideas of others in the belief that as opponents their ideas are something to be BEATEN, not adopted.

One more thing before I go into the particulars of my little social experiment. In light of it being the holiday season and a time of gifting I will leave a few links to where you can find the albums of the band whose music played a key role in it. As you will see I give them Hell, but everyone is has the right to FORM their opinion and honestly my Biggest reason lies in the fact that you can’t run a social experiment without openly stirring the shit pot to get the ball rolling on it. If my results are any indication of the type of people this bands music inspire, believe me when I tell you I would see it all go triple platinum.


https://www.amazon.com/Could-Do-Whatever-Wanted-If/dp/B00BQ1DC16

https://www.amazon.com/Fuck-Your-Emotional-Bullshit-Snowing/dp/B00GMVGEHY

https://www.amazon.com/That-Time-Sat-Pile-Chocolate/dp/B01E84E2PC

It started with just the right search of words on Youtube about a week ago. I happened across the EP Fuck Your Emotional Bullshit by an emo band called Snowing.  2 minutes in and I’m shaking my head trying to discern the lyrics over the cacophony of sounds that just bombard you when you are listening to this. SO I Google the lyrics and what I found was some fairly smart points regarding the sort of things that both cause strong emotion, but also beat people down into a state of emotional numbness. Okay, so for me it was sort of like Nirvana. Some of their songs you could follow what was being said some of it I had to wonder if there was even real words in there when I listened, but if you look at the songs as they are written it is exactly what everyone says it is…Genius. So naturally this is what I commented. (Click Images to see in full size)

 

With the open challenge issued all I had to do was sit back and wait for the responses, if there would be any, to come in. The first did almost immediately and I was impressed by what was actually just a fan who stated his own opinion and that was it. No fight, nothing more than a trade of opinions. So I’m thinking, Alright there are people who get it. People who don’t take such things too personally. I’m cool with that.

The second response came the next day and truthfully it was of a type that I expected, because it is  a very common type of response when someone says something that someone else does not like.

The Third response came the day after. this was one that I had expected sooner in the chain, more like first or second, because it is becoming more and more common a response in this day and age. It is the response I call The Care Bear response and I know if you have read much of anything I have written in the last four years then you know my take on The Care Bear response. And not to my surprise this one actually became an exchange. Because I am a Debater and as such I push the envelop, this makes me like oil to this type of person’s water. They tend to be the ones I ultimately rub the wrong way the most. This is also one of the best type of responses to start switching gears on to show a different side to the argument that you present.

Things went eerily quiet after that for a few days and for a moment I allowed myself to think that my little experiment had run it’s course with little real success. I was wrong. The fourth response was exactly what I had been most expecting and I was glad that it was actually the fourth in line because I had already sewed the seeds for changing up the argument altogether. As you will find what came AFTER this response was EXACTLY the thing that had made this a success. What you see here is the ANGRY RESPONSE. You will note that mine comes back even more harsh. The reason for this was so that if he looked back over how I responded to the others he would see a distinct difference in my demeanor versus how I mirrored his own. Keep an eye on this guy because he will show up later as well.

Remember when I said that I have a way of rubbing those with The Care Bear response the wrong way? Well guess who popped back up. and with that a new exchange was begun until it was suddenly stopped cold……Not by me and not by the guy with The Care Bear response, but by the one who initially had The ANGRY RESPONSE. Check it out.

There, RIGHT THERE was the moment my whole reason for stirring the shit pot. Suffice to say from this point forward My responses to others took on a different tone altogether. It makes no sense to continue being the person who stirs the shit pot once you found someone with a sense of reason who is capable of listening and learning from what others have to say. Doing so would then become COUNTERPRODUCTIVE. So it was when the fifth type of response came around The Innocent of any real insult, but questioning of how someone can stir that shit pot so willingly I honestly found how the girl put it hilarious and so I decided to take the path of adding to the comic relief.

Last came the type of response that I actually had hoped for but had not expected at all. This one came out swinging with an actual argument against my original statement, and a fairly well thought out argument at that. It all comes down to what a person takes personal, and in my own response I point out a lighter side to taking criticism and an appreciation for the thought put into coming back at my arguments.

Now for the point where I ACCEPT a few things of my own. Admittedly it I still find this music a bit of an acquired taste, but if we are being honest there are MANY reasons to come to really like something. For me I have to say this music offered an experience for me that I was not expecting through just the pure diversity of the people and their mind sets who listen to it. They are cool people. And this band are some real bad asses for bringing that together, I haven’t yet listened to the rest of what they have done, but knowing myself…I have Taylor Swift songs that I like…….I can’t STAND Taylor Swift, no offense to her. LOL It is very unlikely that I will not find something of theirs that I listen to repeatedly. With that I became the 873rd person to like their video…You know, the one I bitched about.

….. Why did I do all of this? It’s simple. Get online, any social media outlet, watch the news…..All 15 versions of it, listen to the people around you. What have we heard lately? A mess of LABEL THROWING, Left wingers, Right wingers, We protest this, we’re boycotting you because you protested it. It seems like we are living in a society that is dead set on being divisive, with a lack of OPENNESS that can’t help but make you wonder if there is truly ANY HOPE of repairing the rift. and you can say, at least Americans can, that it’s our current President’s fault and while he has been a huge factor, we were getting that way for a long time already, even before he decided to run for office. Partisan politics, are only a symptom of the REAL PROBLEM. Hell I have a page on here thanking Eminem for his music and what it did to keep me motivated and moving forward, but I don’t really listen to that much now and the reason is because he recently chimed in with a freestyle rap against the president. I agree with most everything he said in that freestyle, I laughed about a lot of it and then he did one of the dumbest things. He laid out an ultimatum to the people who listened to his music……. You can’t side with one and the other, you can’t walk the fence. In that moment the DUMB SON OF A BITCH BECAME THE SAME PROBLEM AS THE OTHER GUY. He essentially fed into the DIVISION of our people and THAT I am SO NOT COOL WITH. If your idea of fixing the problem is just setting people up like chess pieces for a battle you refuse to find, Hell to even bother to LOOK for an alternative path to, it’s on you too. I did this because with as IRREPARABLY DIVIDED as people seem intent on staying in this day and age it is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to show, even in such a small form, that  as UGLY as OPEN DIALOGUE can be in it’s beginning stages, when people are OPEN ENOUGH the EXCHANGE of IDEAS is integral to our GROWTH, both as a person and as a people. Happy Holiday Season to All.

 

 

 

“America is a wall and you are on the other side. How’s a black man ever going to get a fair trial with the enemy on the bench and in the jury box?. My life in white hands? You Jake, that’s how. You are my secret weapon because you are one of the bad guys. You don’t mean to be but you are. It’s how you was raised. Nigger, negro, black, African-American, no matter how you see me, you see me different, you see me like that jury sees me, you are them. Now throw out your points of law Jake. If you was on that jury, what would it take to convince you to set me free? That’s how you save my ass. That’s how you save us both.” – Samuel L. Jackson “A Time To Kill”

The above quote from the movie “A Time To Kill” is one of the most powerful lines, not only in that movie, but in the message it delivers and how it can be applied to any form of prejudice, be it racism, sexism, religious persecution, social class differences, EVERY form of superficial reasoning one person can conjure in their minds to place another human being below them in value. In this particular case I want to cover one of the hottest topics of the moment, sexism.

Though some may not agree with this sexism is a door that swings both ways from both genders. I remember once being made fun of because I could cook and run a vacuum cleaner, “That’s a woman’s work.” I was told. Apparently it did not matter that I was single, or that all of these things deemed “A woman’s work” are actually just LIFE SKILLS that if you don’t know how to do for yourself  and if there is no one there to do things for you, then they don’t get done period. On the flip side of that I have seen women put down other women BECAUSE they CHOOSE to be homemakers and don’t feel any particular need to “Make it, in a man’s world.” So to speak, like these women are an affront to the feminist movement and actually to me this really does sound no different than the men who want to think that cleaning house is a “Woman’s job” and if you are a guy who does it then you are an affront to man hood. I have heard the dreaded statement of “The only thing a woman is good for is sex.” I have had to listen to why “MEN” are everything that is wrong with this world. I have heard the perverted stories of old men growing up in construction, but I have also got a kick out of the perverted jokes about the jumbo sized hot dog in the vending machine, of the break room when I worked in an office as one of only four  men there. To me it was ALL in good humor, just people doing the same things from a direction they were able to relate to more. So why the division? Is it ALL born from what the two genders experience from each other, or is it a lack of understanding the benefits of realizing that we really are not so different from one another? Are we MEN and WOMEN, or are we HUMAN BEINGS and part of a WHOLE?

 ” I have a dream that one day in Alabama, with its vicious racists, with its governor having his lips dripping with the words of interposition and nullification, one day right there in Alabama little black boys and black g.·ids will he able to join hands with little white boy’s and white girls as sisters and brothers. ” – Martin Luther King Jr. “I Have A Dream Speech”

The above statement is part of the speech made by Martin Luther King Jr. in 1963 and it begs the question, What does it take? What does it take to be the kind of person who looks toward UNITY as the answer to being subjected to the injustice brought on by prejudice? Many argue that it takes a GREAT PERSON and this is what this man will always be remembered and honored for being. His era in American history taught us all that there is no such thing as SEPARATE but EQUAL. How we continue to view each other and ourselves as different from one another is what keeps the rift from closing. This is the case of racism, and this is also the case for sexism as well.

I want to take a moment now to examine the difference between an IDEA and a LABEL.  Idea’s are blueprints, they are progressive, they are part of how we manifest and shape concepts of reality, but because of this, they are also FLUID in nature. A label is FIXED, a sort of catch all word or phrase that is meant to put an idea in a nutshell. The two really have no place together, because as an idea changes, so too the label takes on new and different meanings. This happens until a divide is created even among those who define themselves under a label.

I was recently pointed to an article that was very informative and well thought out. It pertained to the role that the divide in feminism played in the recent election. I will leave a link here for you to go and read it, it really is an eye opener on many fronts.

Feminism of the Few Has No Place in a Nation for All

Within this article I saw phrases like “Neo Liberal Feminists” What this phrase shows me not as a man, but as a person, is the effect that labels have on an idea. An IDEA is meant to promote growth and progress within the area that the idea pertains to, a LABEL promotes only that which a label does, which is to say that it RESTRICTS an idea to a fixed state. What happens when you ALMOST fit the LABEL, but you don’t? The same thing that happened among people of Christian faith: They split into DENOMINATIONS and when this happens PEOPLE under a LABEL begin fighting with one another over what is right and wrong on top of what they were already fighting for in the first place. It becomes counterproductive.

So what now? Do you continue down the path that led to this over extension of conflict, or do you make strides in taking POWER away from the label itself? Feminists want a world where women can be seen as equal and be treated with the same respect as everyone else. In this argument TRUE EQUALITY can only be achieved when men stop looking at women as women and start seeing them as people like themselves. This ideology is JUST and LOGICAL, however the very label of FEMINIST is gender specific, they do not call themselves HUMANISTS  which might be encompassing of PEOPLE as a whole. In light of this the sensible question to ask would be. “How can I as a man see you as the same, when you label yourself as different in the very same way that men are guilty of seeing you as?” As informative and well thought out as the above article was, even if it reached people, even if the divide among FEMINISTS was mended and women saw each other as equal, then what? There would STILL be one major divide left to address and that would be the one between the genders. How does that divide get mended?

I believe that there are few out there who do not understand, at least on some level. When it comes to brass tacks, there really are very few out there who have managed to escape oppressive views. No one holds a corner on the market for oppression. There are just too many reasons that people look down on each other and most of them have to do with what a person is rather than what a person does. I may not know a women’s struggle, but I have a heritage in civilized people who extended their hand in friendship to share what they had with others only to have that kindness spit in their faces when they were over run and forced from their homes and land. My Great Grandfather Dennis Standing Horse was a full blooded Native American of the Cherokee Tribe. I don’t know a woman’s struggle, but I faced the same issues in school that anyone who wore twenty dollar McGreggors as opposed to the one hundred and twenty dollar Air Jordans, from both students with an elitist attitude as well as even faculty who believed those elite were where the future would lay while the rest of us were going to be the pizza delivery boys and girls. The above article also shows us, that discrimination is clearly not a gender specific issue, therefore it stands the reason to believe that it is HUMAN ERROR.  and if it is HUMAN ERROR, then it is a HUMAN PROBLEM not strictly WOMEN’S PROBLEM. As hard as it is when you are the one being put down and held back, to put that aside and come at an argument from a direction that includes EVERYONE, it really is the only viable option we have not really tried. We say that women being allowed to vote is a victory for women, but the truth of the matter is, it is a victory for the society as a whole, because it is the recognition that EVERYONE who stands to be effected by the actions of lawmakers has the right to decide who those lawmakers will be. it is meant for stronger unity in that sense of duty across the board. THAT benefits us ALL. When you say that women can hold the same job as a man and not be paid the same salary as that man is a WOMEN”S problem…… It isn’t. It’s everybody’s problem, when you think that a companies short sightedness would see them deter someone who could be really great at a job from even wanting to bother because they would never be respected regardless of performance, that company is short changing itself as well. It also promotes the value of money over people, because if pay is not based on the job rather than who has it you are saying this person over here is worth more without anything to actually justify that belief. The mentality that drives into the PEOPLE as a whole is damaging to ALL. I get that women have been pushed for centuries in some places, but in order to obtain that which FEMINISTS as a whole set out to get, which was TRUE EQUALITY, it has to be about more than women’s struggles and victories, it has to cross the line and be about what would benefit EVERYONE, including the oppressors. Things change when PEOPLE are shown the benefit of that change occurring, see it from the side of PEOPLE as a whole. and your support will multiply. I honestly believe this.

I say Goddamn, Face Book is WAY TOO fucking colorful theses days. I might as well throw my two cents in and piss a few people off at the Negative NIlly who is actually just a realist.

First off congratulations you guys have ONE less thing the government tells us we can’t do. Fuck, no matter what you believe that’s about a Goddamn victory for everybody. 😀 Way to go U.S. for finally giving in a little you cheap bastards and allowing everybody to share in the same business transaction you endorse instead of just Group A. That said, you do realize that was all it was EVER really about right? Do you really think a bunch of big wig politicians with a hidden taste for prostitutes and thievery was ever taking a MORAL STANCE against gay marriage? NO my friends that was JUST what the right wingers were telling the bible thumpers to keep the election funds coming in. You see the U.S. government has NEVER given a FUCK about who you LOVE or who you HATE. What they did give a fuck about was whenever you filed your W-2 whether or not you marked it SINGLE which allowed them to take more and give back less, or MARRIED which made them take less and give more back. 😀 The CONTROL of who could legally marry and who could not was never about belief, it was JUST BUSINESS. Oh and the whole Love WINS thing, it was just a tactical trade off for the government also recently deciding to once again try to erase a part of our history that covered a war that killed more Americans than any other over a Survey says…. Church shooting. WOW so like THE BIGGEST opposition, to gay marriage JUST got hit, in a fashion that draws attention to the RACE FACTOR, making folks jump up down and call for TAKING DOWN A FLAG, right BEFORE THIS MILESTONE decision gets passed by appointed officials, NOT elected ones. This had JACK SHIT to do with LOVE winning anything. Just as, if the Civil War was truly fought for the RIGHT REASON African Americans wouldn’t have STILL been fighting to be treated like everyone one else well over a century after the final shot was fired. Not saying it isn’t a win, just cautioning not to read TOO much into it being ALL ABOUT LOVE AND PROGRESS.

Now I’m HAPPY for you, but I am NOT celebrating this, NOT out of hate, but rather out of experience. I’ve been down that isle once already, it proved ONCE TOO MANY. I simply DO NOT believe in marriage PERIOD. I do not believe that it is a necessary step for COMMITMENT, commitment is being able to leave at any time and CHOOSING not to. The moment you see it is necessary, you limit the value of that bond to a ring and a piece of paper that allows the government all up in your personal shit. That’s another thing, yeah Welcome to our world guys. You just went from having the government tell you, you couldn’t do something to having them all over you for paper work to LEGALLY DOCUMENT your union. Now what does it mean to have the U. S. government in your personal union? Well it’s the polar opposite of what you had to face before being allowed to marry, NOW if you decide you can’t be with the person you are with, it’s A LOT harder to get away. That’s why you can get married in an hour but if you are LUCKY, a divorce will only take a month.

Well that’s just too early to even think about that, we were just finally allowed to get married. 😀 Yeah, that’s me, THE REALIST. In a perfect world you will show us ALL HOW IT IS DONE RIGHT. Honestly I hope you DO. HOPE, but I know better, I’ve seen enough gay couples to know that they are indeed JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. So here is what’s going to happen A SHARP increase in marriages, which will temporarily decrease the divorce percentage over all. A couple, three years tops and then it will start making it’s way right back to where it is NOW and then INCREASE there after. That’s just life, that’s PEOPLE, especially PEOPLE in the fast paced American culture, where no matter your sex, race, sexual orientation, so many have grown up in an age where it is ALL ABOUT INSTANT GRATIFICATION. But, but, this is about LOVE. I HOPE so, I hope that all this fighting for the RIGHT to be allowed to do something you were NEVER ALLOWED to do before has not OVERSHADOWED the very CORE REASON for fighting for it in the first place. I HOPE, but I also DOUBT. I see, well most people as equal, those who I don’t EARN IT through lack of character. I simply DO NOT have the FAITH in people in general to believe otherwise. Love wins, only when it’s ENOUGH but it NEVER IS, is it? – Love BIG CAT