When asked what my greatest strength was, My response was an honest one, I MAKE MY OWN FUCKING DECISIONS, I DON’T TRUST ANYONE’S WORD, WHEN THEY DON’T REALLY KNOW A FUCKING THING ABOUT THE SITUATION BUT THE SCARRED POINT OF VIEW OF THE ONE IN NEED OF COMFORT AND THEIR OWN BLEEDING HEARTS, TO GUIDE MY LIFE. TALK ME DOWN, DON’T THINK YOU’RE WISE ENOUGH TO TALK ME OUT OF SHIT, I WILL TAKE WHAT I AGREE WITH INTO CONSIDERATION, FUCK THE REST. – YOU’RE NOT ME, DON’T TRY TO BE THAT DAMN COOL. 😀
This illustrates, a bad cycle of how people ALLOW others, even the well meaning ones, TO FUCK SHIT UP! It’s not wrong to need or ask for advice, just realize that when you do, they are hearing the emotion wrought from confusion, which hinders anyone’s ability to aid one in an objective fashion, ESPECIALLY IF THEY CARE, because then their emotions get embroiled in the equation and the result from actions committed on behalf of that advice creates a POTENTIAL CLUSTERFUCK. Points of relevance: If the person is truly INTENT on helping you through a rough patch, wisdom comes in the form of “consider this” or “Have you considered this?” “If you have considered that, then you might try this to see if the path gets any more clear for you.” What to watch for: “If I were you, I would.” or “You’re right to feel this way.” Are they? How THE FUCK WOULD YOU KNOW? Without knowing all points of the situation. Advice givers are incredibly shitty about projecting themselves on the party who needs advice in true ARROGANCE, whether they mean to or not. It doesn’t HELP, if you only serve to make the situation worse by acting WISE and NOT ACTUALLY BEING IT. Beware EMOTION when being objective. Have you read my shit? I have my moments……clearly. I give EXAMPLES. I am only blatant about the real obvious, things like ” DON’T START WHAT YOU CAN’T FINISH.” “IF YOU ARE A LARGE TARGET, DON’T BE THE KIND OF PERSON WHO DOES SHIT THAT MERITS RETALIATION, BECAUSE YOU’RE ASKING FOR IT NO MATTER YOU’RE TRAUMA, chances are you are not the ONLY fucked up individual involved, Did I mention the word CLUSTERFUCK Already? Here is yet another thing to Watch for, if the person knows that more than one side of the equation is fucked and STILL pushes you to act a certain way, be mindful of any PERSONAL ISSUES of the advice giver themselves as it MAY BE that they are goading you for THEIR BEST INTERESTS rather than YOUR BEST INTERESTS.
POINT OF LESSON: CHOOSE, don’t let some other motherfucker CHOOSE FOR YOU, that’s the REAL disaster waiting to happen.