The Unspoken Ethic

Lost innocence, trying to get back to where I used to be.
Lost innocence, hoping that there’s something waiting for me.
Lost innocence, have I even learned a single useful thing
or have I lost, in a sense?

I’ve been strong and I’ve been weak.
I’ve learned to turn the other cheek.
I’ve been shown and I’ve been blind.
I’ve said my peace, then changed my mind.
Well I’ve been lost and I’ve been found.
I’ve built things up, then burned them down.
I’ve been wrong and I’ve been right.
I’ve saved the day, then spent the night, yeah.

Lost innocence, trying to get back to where I used to be.
Lost innocence, hoping that there’s something waiting for me.
Lost innocence, have I even learned a single useful thing
or have I lost, in a sense?

I’ve been drunk and I’ve been sober.
I’ve tied one on and pulled one over.
I’ve been rude, I’ve been polite.
Been right on time, then missed the flight.
I’ve been sick and I’ve been well
at Heaven’s gate and on the road to Hell.
Well, I’ve been smooth and I’ve been rough.
I’ve wanted more, then had enough, yeah.

Lost innocence, trying to get back to where I used to be.
Lost innocence, hoping that there’s something waiting for me.
Lost innocence, have I even learned a single useful thing
or have I lost, in a sense?

Have I lost innocence? – Eric Stuart Band

Comments

RN:  Shayne Workman sometimes the best music at times like this are the songs that speak of new beginnings. The past is just that- pasted.
Brother you can’t move forward if you keep looking back all the time. I’ve been through divorce enough to know that the only way to go- is to let it go and carry on with your new life. Drama and emotions are going to work against you- and others will play into it then blame you. Why set yourself up? T H I N K- P L E A S E ?!?!?

RB: Way to go shayne

Shayne: Duly noted. I’ve had that wonderful experience where in the process of walking away for the sake of diffusing a bad situation, I got chased down and dogged. And while I can honestly say I should have had enough sense to keep walking, once the tilt occurs it becomes increasingly harder to stop it, especially when someone is well schooled in what buttons to push. Next thing you know, you go from having the sense to try to cool things down, to getting pulled right back into the Jerry Springer retard club of getting all in each others faces screaming over bullshit that ultimately doesn’t matter. But alas I am also in the sorting phase now, where I have to honestly decide what is mine to claim, both good and bad, or the only new beginning I can hope for will just be a reboot of the same cycle that has already almost cost me everything. I have a gift in my ability to admit wrong doing and see it for what it is, but I have also seen myself be that 7 year old brat even now that has directed my frustrations on others who were not the cause, just so they know what it feels like to be as cut off and meaningless as I have been. It’s a dangerous spot for me because I have one of the worst downfalls in over analyzing shit. So the warning is most appreciated. I do have to make sure I don’t get stuck in the process, that could screw me just as bad and as fast as overlooking an obvious flaw.

March 16th

“IT’S ALIVEEEE!! IT’S ALIVEE!!!!………(sigh) But why does the fucking thing keep walking face first into the wall?”

Just a reminder, wise man says: look for the humor and you will find the enjoyment, even in the worst of times..  <( I was feeling better about things at this point clearly.)

Psychologists don’t seem to know what to think when you break their terms out on them, during psych evals. Why no, I learned absolutely nothing from those college text books I payed 2 dollars for at Goodwill. 😀

March 21st

I have sat at a moral crossroads for awhile now and am not ashamed to admit, I don’t know which way to go, so if anyone’s listening, here goes. Forgiveness is divine or so it has been said, but what do you do when it has a way of interfering with common sense? Forgiving is one thing, but what does it change if anything in a case where logic dictates that, now that I have finally found it in myself to admit that I have earned better than connecting myself to someone that I am always in a state of disadvantage with, no matter what I do? Is there a compromise and if so, is it worth it? I would do anything for anyone that I could, but as you all well know, piss me off and I become the very definition of Asshole. Where do I draw the line between hard ass and door mat? I honestly don’t know, I was hoping for some thoughts on this, to give me a different perspective.

Comments

AMJ:  I believe forgiveness has very little to do with the person you are forgiving and more to do with you, and clearing the space in your mind and soul. Why allow anyone to take up space that you could use for your own purpose or goals. It’s like having a non-paying tenant you don’t want around. Forgive and move on from it. As for connecting with that person or anyone who doesn’t allow you to be yourself or to move forward is detrimental to your own well being physically, mentally and spiritually. As much as we want things to work sometimes, or to find a way to work around the other persons issues so that we aren’t in that state of disadvantage there really isn’t any way without compromising ourselves. In that case it’s better to just walk away with a clean slate knowing you’ve done all you can do than to continue on in a way that’s unhealthy for everyone involved. Did that make any sense?

TH: Shayne. Forgiveness is not for the other person, its for yourself. So you don’t have to carry the burden of a grudge. You can forgive someone for what they’ve done or do but don’t allow yourself to be abused or taken advantage of. There is a balance. If you know in your heart you will always be at a disadvantage w someone you can limit your contact w them but still love and accept them.for who and what they are.

CL: Dearest shayne I think that I couldn’t have put it better my self forgive and forget and move on with a clean mind and heart

Shayne: Thank you all for the assist, before my damn fool ass went and did something I would most likely regret. I have compromised myself enough, Fuck doing that anymore for any one, it’s my turn now. They’ll just have to get over their loss.

BW: Forgiveness is 4 urself but it makes peace within u, that makes u a better person

March 24th

Well that sucked, in a mix-up that is actually becoming more rare as I regain my ability to think straight, I missed my ride to work this morning, damn and here I thought it would be because I overslept the first time, but no I was even up since 5 this morning. So I guess I will play grounds keeper today, you know vacuum, laundry, all that fun shit, I kind of see it as practice anyway, I mean when I finally do get my own place, who the fuck is going to do any of that shit but me anyway. 😀

Is it Supernatural? Actually no, I was thinking of E. the 60 year old homeless man who I had a rather in depth conversation with the night I went back to the ER, standing out side at the very bus stop that I collapsed in the night before having made it back from Jefferson. ( Yeah I did actually have enough pride not flop in the middle of porn land, besides I knew I didn’t have enough left in me to make it anywhere really, and the only true requisite I set for myself was to go until I dropped, and I did. ) As i stood there getting my last 3 maybe 4 cigarettes in before the ER ( because the smartest thing in the world for someone with Pneumonia to do, is stand in 38 degree weather at night smoking.) I was told about how common my story was, from a man who lives on the streets, has two kids in jail and grandson that he can’t reach out to because he has no means of contacting his kids in jail. I learned some shits 1: If trouble is what I seek, return from whence I came. 2 Keep pushing yourself, and never bow to this world we live in. and 3 The streets ain’t no fuckin place to live. I needed that. <( This was written with a shared video from Youtube of “Carry on Wayward Son)

Trying to decide, whether or not I should stay or go once all my legal bullshit gets straightened out. Maybe I’m just feeling the constraints of being bound to this place, but then I was brought here from the place where I was familiar with everything, after my mother’s death. I have to wonder after everything can I really call this home? At this point there is even less holding me here, than there would be anywhere else. And lets be honest while I did declare my independence here, is that only because I did not go any farther? This place, for all the memories and time spent trying to build or rebuild anything, this place has never been anything for me but misery and loss, what the fuck would be the point?

Comments

NC: I am of the opinion that moving on when a place has nothing more to offer me is a good hing. At some point, I realized a move in location could be better, but couldn’t possibly be worse than where I experienced only stress and unhappiness.

Shayne: Moving on does kind of sound nice. One of these damn days I might finally get my eco mud hut I keep talking about out in the desert. <( I will explain this one more later, but for prelude, I call this move The Ben Kenobi Initiative designed for when I get so fucking sick of the world that I opt to live the rest of my days a hermit in the desert. Oh it has also been started at this point as well.)

JBL: The desert is nice. 😀

AMJ:  Sometimes its hard, or better said, nearly impossible to let go of everything that’s familiar to head into the unknown but more times than not its exactly what one needs to do not only for their physical, mental or financial well being but for their soul. Just look to the wind lil’ brother, listen and allow it to show you that path. Its a journey that you alone have to face and decide upon. And I have no doubt that once you hear your calling you will make the right decisions and you will prevail. Btw an eco mud hut sounds kewl! I wanna come visit for coffee when you get it done 😉

March 26th

I repeat: Money may not buy happiness, but it sure as Hell can grant you a lack of misery.

Revolution like Immortality comes in many forms……… Just thought you should know.

It’s hard to grasp the concept of Peace in a time of struggle, I have tried, and honestly, one day I might get to where I’m Buddha enough to have a heart full of forgiveness, but for now I got to do the best I can with what I have. I was thinking sly mirth as a substitute for hatred for the time being, which simply means I don’t let what was done bother me, but I will giggle my ass off at the motherfuckers who done it when it bites them on the ass. (shrugs) Is that good enough for the stage I’m in right now?

Comments

RN:  Nope!!! You ARE BETTER THEN THAT Shayne Workman! Mind over matter. Make up your mind to focus on what really matters- and the past has passed and it should be totally left behind. You deserve a clean free start.

CL: That’s great for stage 1 But I know you are better than those who have wronged you I have to say one day karma will have its way with them love you shayne

Shayne: I know. I know. Sounds pretty damn good though. I got another way around it…. 😀  This one just seemed easier.

March 30th

I don’t know if you noticed but things have been a little different for me since I had my moment of clarity a few weeks back.

Every one has those moments when you just need to set the clock to zero again. Since doing so, I have built a reasonably workable plan, aided now by actual income. My legal shit is still going, for now, but that isn’t going to last much longer and I will not go down to that bullshit. So that is just a waiting game for it to end now.

Personally the past is over and gone. I however wasn’t put on this Earth to save the fucking children, nor am I here to cater to or kiss the asses of backstabbers…. No matter what piss poor, pathetic excuse one may have to justify something that can’t be justified. The door will be open for some, All I ask for is that fucking me over not be your first or intentional purpose. Those who know me, know that I am loyal beyond reason, and am good at being a resource for many things. If these are worthwhile traits to you, they are still part of me, I don’t give up strengths, I just find ways to overcome weakness. Accept what I offer or accept that I am dead to you in all capacities and leave me be, my time on a lower link on this food chain is almost up.